- don’t be the first person to step out of the way or to apologize. women feel like they have to ask for the ground they stand on, guys assume it belongs to them. if you’re walking toward a woman and one of you has to step aside, wait for her to do it. if you’re walking toward another guy, keep your head high and wait until the last second; if he don’t move for you, shift your body just enough so that you don’t collide. act as though actually moving out of his way would be yielding in some way.
- when walking past guys, tilt your chin up slightly to acknowledge guys you know, tilt it down slightly to acknowledge ones you don’t. again, don’t give ground or adjust your body posture. think of two ships passing: they’ll steer slightly so they don’t crash but they don’t do weird posture changes to their hull when they do it
- guys don’t like long eye contact. when hanging with another dude, tilt one shoulder toward him so your body is angled away. look past him when talking. if he says something important, let your head come around, let your eyes skim over his jaw, nod in agreement, say whatever’s the right response, then let your gaze wander back out.
- TAKE. UP. SPACE. Again, act like you own everything around you. Sprawl in that chair because it’s yours and you’re tired and you fuckin deserve it.
- when sitting, let your hand/wrist rest on your crotch. not in a weird, ‘i’m touching myself’ way, just relax and let your arm naturally fall between your legs. if you’re sitting back, let your dominate hand fall so that the heel of your hand is resting at the seam of your leg and put you other arm so your elbow is bent (behind your head, with your hand next to you on the chair, w/e, it makes you look bigger). If you’re leaning forward, put the dominate elbow on your upper thigh and the other elbow on your knee, forearms relaxed. You’d be amazed how having a hand over your crotch makes people assume what may or may not actually be there
- fuck with your hair. most guuys do shit with their hair when they’re thinking, when they’re stressed, when they’ve just seen a pretty girl/guy. don’t be afraid to grab a handful of your hair or run your hands through it
- don’t worry about your expressions so much
- check out the gennder of your choice. don’t make a big deal out of it, but don’t be afraid to let your eyes wander over that cute girl/guy walking by
- if you walk up to a group of guys, let the first couple minutes speak for themselves. guys do so much body language. let your body tell the story of you. are you confident? comfortable? relaxed and having a good time? don’t worry so much about what you say, just work on projecting who you are as a man. after the other guys size you up, they’ll quit worrying about it.
- use what I call ‘the three second flick’. if a guy you don’t know well touches you, like say he grabs your arm, or he goes to hand you something you’re not expecting, you look down at his hand, up at his face, then down at his hand before you respond. You can put a lot into that gesture, including ‘don’t ever touch me again’
mostly what the OP said. relax and be confident